I watched a few episodes of Monk on Netflix over the weekend. Every episode has made me swing between frustration with, and empathy for the character, brilliantly portrayed by Tony Shalhoub.
In the series, he is a gifted detective, lives with multiple phobias and finds it compulsive to have everything in order. To his therapist he confesses- I don't want to be me.
In a moment of deep reflection he admits- I am afraid of change ... and also of not changing,
Sometimes we know change is the only option, and yet we resist because it is something new.
Many times it is about the uncertainty of what we will step into when something changes.
Often the fear is that we don't know who we will be after change, and whether we will be accepted.
The flip side is not changing- the stagnation, helplessness and the self doubt that accompanies it. The challenge could be about acceptance, action or aspiration or about all of them.
It is like what one of my clients described as-" being in the air between the moment I take the leap to the moment I land".
It is tough to be be in this situation. Even tougher if you are stuck alone.
What is needed is a non-judgmental thinking and reflecting partner who can support you through these phases of indecision and fear. A professional coach can be one such partner.
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